tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post36054609327712070..comments2023-09-22T10:27:08.895-07:00Comments on Life As I Know It: I dreamt of a wedding...my ownHistoryGeekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02670515936852776370noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post-47283353220453049812008-04-24T18:59:00.000-07:002008-04-24T18:59:00.000-07:00I think a mixture of comfort and challenge is just...I think a mixture of comfort and challenge is just about right, and it should be reciprocal. :0)<BR/><BR/>Spins, I'm so sorry that you've been going through all of this. You've been so strong, and are handling this so well! *hug* <BR/><BR/>Your dream interested me. It gave you an understanding of what S is going through, but it also seemed to me to be highlighting the changes he has inspired in you, and what he (and you?) hopes that you will continue to do. You have a choice between settling down and just being comfortable, but probably unfulfilled, or you can divorce yourself from the rut, and push yourself out of your comfort zone occasionally to grow and experience life more fully; to find who you are and what you like beyond what you know. I think perhaps that's what S wants for you, and why you felt in your dream that he would be disappointed if you married yourself to a "comfortable" life that you don't really want.<BR/><BR/>*hug*Aravishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07766002202567429153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post-14334816014026415952008-04-24T07:39:00.000-07:002008-04-24T07:39:00.000-07:00Hyde - I really think that he doesn't know how to ...Hyde - I really think that he doesn't know how to motivate himself. Right now he doesn't want to do things with me because it is not comfortable not being with me and that discomfort he hopes will be a motivator. But you are right...why isn't comfort a good thing.<BR/><BR/>Cody - I don't recall the party after the wedding. It would have been in this great hotel in the dream though. And I was wearing a burgundy dress. I carried an old fashioned handkerchief instead of a bouquet of flowers.HistoryGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02670515936852776370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post-29736050702203031832008-04-24T04:57:00.000-07:002008-04-24T04:57:00.000-07:00More importantly, what were you serving, was there...More importantly, what were you serving, was there an open bar, and how did your dress look. (sorry, just trying to lighten it up a little Spins)Cody Boneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12743998050700202712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post-23987191935265601072008-04-23T14:41:00.000-07:002008-04-23T14:41:00.000-07:00Narc said something similar to me-- that he is too...Narc said something similar to me-- that he is too comfortable with me and that I don't challenge him to be more than he is. In my opinion, it is a blessing to be comfortable with another human being. If we want to be challenged and bettered in life, we can challenge ourselves, instead of relying on something external to make us into what we want to be. I don't get it. I didn't get it when Narc said it and I don't get it when S says it. We can enhance each other in relationships without having it be about a "challenge." You definitely enhanced his life. And besides, I have challenged myself so much in the past two years. I know it can come from within.<BR/><BR/>Stay strong, spins!<BR/><BR/>love<BR/>hHydehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05361348356625074872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post-104336437612330812008-04-23T14:05:00.000-07:002008-04-23T14:05:00.000-07:00Shorty - yes, we have e-mailed one another. But i...Shorty - yes, we have e-mailed one another. But it is hard to not have more contact. My sense is that he is isolating while he tries to work this out.<BR/><BR/>HC - I know it's more about him and that I couldn't have done anything differently. It's still hard (and a little disorienting) to get a clear sense of what he must have felt. Your support has been so wonderful, by the way!HistoryGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02670515936852776370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post-39279317037364159492008-04-23T10:22:00.000-07:002008-04-23T10:22:00.000-07:00My opinion is that it is of no small significance ...My opinion is that it is of no small significance that he has structured his partnerships in a way that as you said, don't allow him to be challenged back. It may not help you feel better in this moment but it says a lot more about him than about any shortcomings of yours. Hang in there amiga - you will be happy again, give yourself time (it sucks I know).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10112235.post-88935742997439957502008-04-23T10:03:00.000-07:002008-04-23T10:03:00.000-07:00Have you had any kind of communication with S sinc...Have you had any kind of communication with S since your talk the other night?shortyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09646106228386001678noreply@blogger.com