I am a completely hopeless computer user. At one time, I was ahead of my time (I think I was in 3rd grade then), but now I just don't have the time to figure it out too well.
Anyway, I tried to link below to the article on couples therapy (or as they persist in calling it in the article, "marital therapy"). It just doesn't seem to be working.
So instead, go to SFgate.com and search for "marital therapy" and it should come up. It's recommended reading for my post...which means that I expect most of you won't read it.