"Sometimes I lash out at those I love"

I've been working pretty hard to keep good thoughts about Sister. I really want to think about a positive relationship with her. And, then, I just get so frustrated, I can hardly stand it!

My mother had her foot surgery 2 weeks ago, and she has only been to visit once. I've been fretting about not being able to go there and help take care of her. My father is doing an admirable job, but since his strokes, he gets overwhelmed very easily. My mother said that all of the chopping that was required for a particular meal he was preparing almost sent him into a panic.

Sister has not helped them at all! My mother mentioned a doctor's appointment that she had to go to and Sister said, well, I was going to the cabin that weekend, but I'll take you and go some other time. My mother was grateful! Of course, she should be taking her. Did we grow up in the same household?!

I'm so frustrated, I called one of my friends (after asking the parents if this would be okay) and asked them if they could make something to bring them. There's a personal chef service that I'm also going to look into, as well, so that they have some back-ups. I just wish that she would do something for them without being asked.

I feel like I'm living in a different universe with her. I get sick and my friends immediately ask if I need anything - of course, I often deny that I do, but still, I know that I can call them anytime. To give my parents their part in it, they don't ask, either, and my mother's response when I said that I might have some food delivered to them was..."oh, no, I'm sure they are busy!"

*Sigh*

P.S. They aren't starving in all this, just a bit overwhelmed.