I like talking about this stuff!
So, I wanted to say something about all sorts of poly-type relationships. I, actually, have few issues with men and women who, because of their religious beliefs, choose to construct their families with one man and several women. I get a little nervous if they are the types to begin stockpiling guns, but I guess that when you are arrested for the way you choose to live on a semi-regular basis that might make you a wee bit paranoid.
As for those wackjobs who, because of their religious beliefs, believe that it is okay to marry a girl just after her first period....well, I agree with Cody on that obviously. Also, I believe that mixing religion and polygamy can sometimes lead to a particularly ugly brand of misogyny.
Now, to Hammer's follow-up question: I don't currently imagine that I would want to be involved with partners outside of this particular relationship. There are 2 reasons for this. The first is that I have made a commitment to this relationship which involves me giving up a certain amount of control over my choices to S. This I do willingly and gladly, and I'll talk a little bit more about this below. The second reason is that, realistically, I can't imagine how it is that S manages it. The life that I have right now with work, a part-time private practice, friendships and now this relationship takes up a lot of my time and energy. I'm someone who needs space and time to myself. Last night, after working (or traveling between work) for 12 hours, I was so ready and pleased to come home by myself and watch NCIS, read my book, and stretch out in my bed alone. Bliss! I'd be too overwhelmed trying to juggle more.
And now a word on this control situation. S is dominant and I am submissive in our relationship. I have given him control in many ways that others may feel uncomfortable with. For me it feels freeing. Partially, this is because I grew up with a father who would never make a decision, but would somehow expect that his family would choose the things that he wanted...restaurants, movies, tv shows, etc. If we didn't guess right, there would be a passive-aggressive display that was, in retrospect, among the finest I've seen. It is, frankly, relieving to me to be with someone whom I can trust to tell me exactly what he wants and when he wants it. I also find that I can stay present in the relationship and enjoy it more. And there is an erotic component to all this that just turns me on!
Okay, then, I have to go get some blood drawn for a cholesterol test before I can eat breakfast this a.m. So I'm off!
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Thanks for the recommendation, Mr Mystic. I put it on my Netflix queue.
What a risk you take by offering your control to him! Are you going to see the new Venus in Furs movie? Also, is it anything like Hegel says? (You know, a dialectic between master and slave, where the master needs the slave as much as (or more than) the slave needs the master ?)
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